The Friend Zone
BY NADIA CHAHID ON MARCH 21, 2014
You mean so much to me. You’re always there when I need to talk. I’m so glad I have a friend like you! Let's face it people; we’ve all been there before. I’m talking about the dreaded friend zone. Love’s greatest downfall, the pit of despair, the point of no return.
While unfortunately, if currently in the friend zone, you’re probably stuck forever, because only a true master can be clutch enough to escape the friend zone. Hope is not lost though, the best thing to do is to be educated about friend zone prevention. If you can recognize the signs, then it is possible you can remove yourself from the situation before the hole you are in is dug deeper.
There are certain types of people who friendzone, we all know at least one. First of all there is the tease, or more commonly called a flirt. The tease draws you in with their flirty attitude and right when they get you where they want you, they throw you out like last year’s Rose parking pass.They are experts at leading you on. Typically a tease enjoys letting you think you have a chance, only to later stomp all over your heart. Beware, you can look, but you can’t touch. A tease is like having a box of Krispy Kreme’s dozen donuts sitting right in front of you but not being able to sample a single one.
Steer clear of a friend zoner who doesn’t know what they want. This type is considered the most dangerous because it’s nearly impossible to know where you stand. Make up your mind for goodness sake! Sometimes people keep you around as a backup. The thought process of an “indecisive zoner” is, “hmm if things don’t work out between John Doe and I, then I will always have you.” Nobody likes being the fall-back guy. Being someone’s second choice isn’t exactly a self esteem booster. So I will warn you right now, don’t let this happen to you, chances are, you don’t deserve it. Navigating the lines between friendship and relationship is an uphill battle.
When the seemingly unyielding bond of friendship has you in its clutches, escaping would be a futile attempt. Have you ever had feelings develop for a close friend? There aren’t means of figuring out if your friend feels the same way without creating a potentially AWKWARD situation. Nobody likes awkward, especially if you plan on being friends in the future. So how do you figure out if they feel the same way without risking everything? Simple answer, you can’t. To cross this line is to plunge into the unknown, take a shot in the dark. So you must ask yourself, Is it worth it? What is more important to me? It’s hard to go back to being friends when you’ve aired your dirty laundry. The situation could go one of two ways, you find out they don’t feel the same, which is a slap in the face, or in a perfect world you find out they feel the same way!
The point I’m making is that the friend zone is a treacherous place to be in and should be treated with extreme caution. Recognizing the signs is easier said than done. So, good luck out there and watch out for zoners.