LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS
Love can be closer than you think
BY JOSHUA GAY ON MARCH 21, 2014
Author Barbara de Angelis once said, “Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible - it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment and offer you more joy than any material possession could.”
Long-distance relationships are becoming more common among students at Rose. Many individuals at Rose feel that dating someone in your own area can be challenging, but adding distance to the mix? Some believe it is impossible, while other students believe that distance can make the heart grow fonder.
So the question that remains is, do they work? Some students here at Rose are in long-distance relationships. Junior Addy Robbins and freshman Molly Cox each had experience with a long-distance relationship.
“I never really planned to be in a long-distance relationship,” Robbins said. “It just happened.”
Contrary to popular belief that long-distance relationships never work, both Robbins and Cox feel that while long-distance relationships can be difficult, they are worth it in the end.
“It can be very hard at times, but extremely worth it and fun.” Robbins said.
Although long distance relationships can be fun, they have their ups and downs. Robbins says that one of the downsides to them is that you don't get to see one another very often, like other people get to see their boyfriend or girlfriend. On the other hand, Robbins said that one of the pros to having a long distance relationship is that you get to meet all of his or her friends, and experience new things, and meet new people along the way.
“You don't get to see them whenever you want,” Cox said. “[Although] when you do see them, the time spent with them is really special.”
Even though Robbins and Cox’s relationships are still going strong, not all the students at Rose have had positive experiences with being in a long-distance relationship. Senior Deontre Robinson, who was in a long-distance relationship for five months, just wasn't meeting the right “distance” expectations.
Robinson says that he met this girl at camp and they had been friends for about a year. The problem with the situation was that she lived an hour and 30 minutes away.
“Distance tore us apart,” Robinson said. “Not being able to see her everyday made it difficult to keep our connection strong.”
Although the relationship did not work out, Robinson says that it could have worked had they lived closer. Robinson is not alone in his thoughts. Many students feel that you have to be willing to not only see the person you're dating a few times out of a month, but also have to have a really strong connection for that person.
As far as long-distance relationship go they can be fun and exciting, but can also be very challenging too. When it comes down to it all, it really depends on the person.
“If I could give any advice [to someone] wanting this kind of relationship, I would definitely tell them to not lose hope,” Cox said. “Because it’s not as hard as it seems going into it, and most importantly [when it’s all said and done] it’s worth it.”